I'm crazy. What's your excuse?

Well, hello there maniacs! I can call you that right? We’ve passed formalities ages ago!

Today’s topic is something we’ve all done or/and experienced before, and it is the famous FRIEND ZONE! (Also known as being friend-ed!)

Wait a sec! You don’t know what it means? No prob! I’ll give you a little description of it.

  What does friend zoning mean?

Simple, it is having a friend whom you would like to be more than just friends with, but they don’t. So, what they’d do is FRIEND ZONE you! As in, s/he would tell you things that would point to the fact that they’re not interested in you.

Still a bit lost? Don’t worry! I Have many examples to make this topic clearer for you. So next time you’re being friend zoned, don’t embarrass yourself any further and show that ‘always a friend, never a boy/girlfriend’ what they’re missing.

So, without stalling, here are the most famous friend-zoning hints your ‘I just wanna be friends’ would give you. Or maybe you could use (Although, I feel sorry for that other person.) :

To avoid repetition, let’s assume that you are the friend zonee (the victim).

1-Reminding you that you are just a friend:

• You are such a good friend!
• You are my best friend!
• You’ll ALWAYS be my friend!
• Best FRIEND FOREVER!!
• You’re like my brother/sister!

Here, there’s repetition of the word friend/sibling, so that you understand there’s NO WAY you two are going to be together.

2-Blaming it on your friendship!

• You’re a great guy/girl, but I don’t like you in that way.
• I love you, but I don’t want to ruin our friendship. Because relationships never last, but friendships DO! (hmm.. -raise mah hand- Guilty?)

I think that’s a kick below the belt! It’s totally unfair, because that’d make you (The unfortunate friend zonee) HOOKED on him/her! But that’s another story… So, let’s just stick to our topic.

3-Telling you about their love interest (Whom by the way, isn’t YOU!)

• I really like that girl/guy (who isn’t you!) I want to be with him/her.
• My lover/crush this! My lover/crush that! S/He did this and that and blah blah blah..
• ‘The lucky idiot’s name’ is soooo ‘compliment’ and soo ‘rain of compliments’ I soooo love him/her (again, not you!)

In this example, your ‘JUST friend’ is boring you with their love interest stories to indirectly tell you that the place you want to be in for them is already booked/occupied! And don’t get your hopes up! It might never be available even if it doesn’t with the other person.

4-Sharing with you details about their lives they wouldn’t share with their lovers:

• -Telling you something about their intimate, personal lives-
• -Telling you something that isn’t so “attractive” about him/her-
• -Sharing too much details with you..-

Basically here, they would just tell you things they wouldn’t normally tell to their love interest.  Thus, referring to the fact you will not be more than a friend to them.

5-Pushing you away:

• I’m sorry, I can’t hang out right now, I’m really busy. (giving this excuse many times)
• I’m sorry, I completely forgot we had plans. We’ll do it another time k?
• -Avoiding you as much as possible-
• -Acting as if they don’t understand your ‘I like you’ hints, and sending you way off..-
• -Stop being so nice to you because they thought it gave you the “wrong idea”-
• -Being cold and acting so awkward around you..-
• -Being careful and thinking before saying anything around you..-

This is a pretty common friend zoning act. And it’s where usually all friendships that have suffered from F. Z. situation go to. You would start acting awkward around each other, feeling nervous and being careful of what you can say next that would give the other person the wrong idea. That’s like the before-final phase of the friendship. Next, would be a major breaking up fight or a simple, peaceful ‘going on the different directions’ separation.

This is basically how F. Z. is done! I have to admit I have friend-ed before and I actually used all those methods! Therefore, just so you know, I’m speaking from experience.

Is friend zoning someone a good thing? Not really. But you can’t expect someone who always thought of you as a friend to suddenly fall for you because you did. So, take my advice! If you like someone, don’t get closer to them using the ‘I just wanna be friends’ excuse! But be honest! Tell them you’re interested in them! If they’re not,  be clear by saying “Ok! No prob. Let’s be friends if you want, but remember, I like you! And NOT as a FRIEND!” Then work your butt off to make them see you’re worth the try!

And if you do have a friend you’re interested in, Don’t confess without giving it a though! Think of the friendship you’re most likely going to ruin! And try seeing if that person’s interested in you or not.

Bottom line, guys, It’s not so hard to win a girl’s heart. Every girl likes an honest gentleman who at least tries to understand her.

And bottom line, girls, It’s not so hard to get a boy either, but there’s more than one way to get him. If you try the wrong one, all you’ll be getting are the wrong “ones”. But if you try the right way, like being nice, being true and especially being yourself, The right guy will come knocking on your doorstep!

And before I wrap this up people, here’s a couple of advice:

-Do not misinterpret friendly behavior as flirting..

-If the person you like rejected you and you can’t seem to win them over. It means it just wasn’t the right person, even  if they really seem perfect for you. But DON’T, and I insist DON’T YOU EVER let them use you under the excuse that you “might” be together one day..

Last but not least, if there’s someone who likes you, before friend zoning them, try giving them a chance. At least in your mind, consider them! Because they might be the best thing that could happen to you. But beware from Pricks!

That’s it for not, Sorry for being too talkative/typist!

Until next time,

Stay crazy!

Bye Byez~